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SpongeBob and “the new normal”

I fondly recall a SpongeBob SquarePants episode where lead character SpongeBob indulges in becoming “hyper-normal“.

During these uncertain times…how trite! How absolutely boring.

Anyway, don’t become like SpongeBob in this episode–bland, robotic, and uninspiring. Be more like the hero he is: the hard-working, all-friendly, Gary-caring guy we all grew up with and loved.

If we must re-find our normality, then let’s do it in an exciting manner!

Our relation with media

“What constitutes social media?” This was my shower question of the day…

I’ve reflected much lately on my own relation to media. It’s cliché to say that it’s “all around us”. The media writ large usually refers to news outlets and journalism.

However, with the advent of ubiquitous social media–enter YouTube, Facebook and Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn and WordPress–the way we define media has changed. Media now is social not only in a “family all in the room watching TV” sense: it’s grown to include a global community.

But this global community grew from the inventions of radio, TV, and computers in originally local contexts. Naturally, the hardware was built within these, going on to eventually be manufactured and distributed citywide (followed by state-, nation-, and finally world-wide).

So, media is ubiquitous. Social media is especially so given its dissemination across Web channels–from server-to-client-to-server, in a never-ending loop of communication and collaboration.

Technology is the means through which we communicate and interact. It augments our connections, allowing for one person to reach another instantaneously–all from the comfort (hopefully) of wherever we are.

But only about half of the world has access to the internet. This to me seems ideal, lest we risk imposing our lifestyle onto others who may not wish for it.

Let us enjoy what we’ve created. It is truly a marvelous infrastructure!

 

Seto Kaiba and “Mark Eisenberg”

Kaiba from Yu-Gi-Oh! and Zuckerberg from The Social Network both share unyielding dedication to their respective businesses. Kaiba inherits his corporation from Gozaburo Kaiba, his stepfather. Mark built Facebook himself.

What makes these two so intensely focused on their business missions? Pain drives each. Kaiba wants to bury the past. Mark wants to get over his inconsiderate treatment of Erica Albright.

Overcoming the trauma of pain through company-building is what unites the characters Kaiba, and Mark as played by Jesse Eisenberg.

Maslow on humanity and the environment

Self-actualizing people resist enculturation and are independent of their environments.

Taking Maslow’s theory further requires acknowledging the inherent limits of independence. Generally, we are born dependent on caretakers. As we grow older, we become more dependent on society for things like money (to fulfill children’s security needs), respect, and prestige. This comes with independence from our caretakers but dependence on a broader network.

Perhaps curiously, love is prior to self-esteem in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. This suggests that while our need for love is more fundamental, it is also less fulfilling than the need or want for self-esteem.

Love is the bedrock of interdependence. Interdependence follows from independence–independence stems from dependence. Dependence is the root of our needs!

Being independent of the environment does involve transcending it. However–once we have done so–how do we treat the environment? Do we honor it as the substrate for all animals’, including our, existence? Or do we soil the soil we arose from?

The interdependent person accepts their place in our broader ecology. He and she trade strength with the environment equitably.

Self-actualizing collectives form from such individuals. Only these collectives can save Earth…so that they themselves can become worthy of salvation.

 

Character-strengthening

In yesterday’s post, I laid out positive psychology’s six virtues. Each virtue (wisdom; courage; humanity; justice; temperance; and transcendence) consists of three to five character strengths.

Each of these character strengths can technically be considered a “sub-virtue”. Let’s assume that maximizing at least half of each virtue’s sub-components–or achieving medium competence in each sub-virtue–leads to attainment of the higher virtue(s).

Wisdom’s character strengths are: creativity; curiosity; open-mindedness; love of learning; and perspective.

Courage’s sub-virtues are bravery; persistence; integrity; and vitality.

Humanity’s are love, kindness, and social intelligence.

Justice’s are citizenry, fairness, and leadership.

Temperance’s sub-virtues are forgiveness/mercy; humility/modesty; prudence; and self-regulation.

Finally, transcendence’s character strengths are: appreciation; gratitude; hope; humor and playfulness; and spirituality.

Building on each of these 24 aspects of one’s character leads to its ultimate strengthening! How does one build on them–all the way from creativity to spirituality? And: Is it better to focus on a few sub-virtues…or to balance them all equally?

A virtuous life

How does one lead a life of virtue, or what Seligman calls the “good life”?

Positive psychologists distinguish between six virtues. These are wisdom, courage, humanity, justice, temperance, and transcendence. The virtuous person, then, must be wise; courageous; humane; just; temperate; and/or transcendent.

What does each of the six virtues consist of? Each virtue is further divided into 24 character strengths. Being virtuous thus means having a strong character.

Building strength of character–while requisite for cultivating virtue–may be more diverse and nuanced!